I decided to write this blog because I want to write down and share all the lessons I’ve learned in life. I also want to document some of my experiences in life that, together, make me who I am. Hopefully, when I am an adult, I’ll be able to look back on this blog and see how I thought as a teenager and reassess the lessons I’ve learned. Surely this blog does justice to that hope.
6 Lessons & Quotes About Friendship:
Thanks to a tremendous friend of mine, Darek L., I’ve been able to read a lot about friendships and their importance. To visit one of my favorite articles about ‘friendship’, click here. This is the article where many of the quotes below were found. I definitely recommend it.
- “Exceptional achievement in work and life is a peer-to-peer collaborative process. Behind every great leader, at the base of every great tale of success, you will find an indispensable circle of trusted advisors, mentors and colleagues… These relationships are, quite literally, why some people succeed far more than others” – Keith Ferrazzi, Who’s Got Your Back.
- Essentially, Ferrazzi is corroborating Arnold Schwarzenegger’s claim that there is no such thing as a “self-made man.” Every single person is supported and improved — or made worse — by his or her peers.
- “All friendships of any length are based on a continued, mutual forgiveness” – David Whyte on the True Meaning of Friendship, Love and Heartbreak
- Whyte’s statement here is one of the most accurate that I have read yet. True friendships cannot be merely someone with whom you exchange support. Support should be given at all times without an expectation of anything in return.
- “Defriending isn’t just unrecognized by some social oversight; it’s protected by its own protocol, a code of silence. Demanding an explanation wouldn’t just be undignified; it would violate the whole tacit contract on which friendship is founded. The same thing that makes friendship so valuable is what makes it so tenuous: it is purely voluntary. You enter into it freely, without the imperatives of biology or the agenda of desire. Officially, you owe each other nothing.” – Tim Kreider, We Learn Nothing
- Ultimately, friendships are entirely voluntary.
- “You are the average of the five people you most associate with.” – Tim Ferris, Business Insider
- Although it’s possible to outgrow and move on from your friends, it is still true that you are inherently affected by your peers.
- “The real test of a Corner Four relationship is what happens when you choose a different path than the one your supportive person desires for you” – Dr Henry Cloud, The Power of the Other
- This article here sums up the four corners of relationships. A Corner Four relationship is pretty much one where there is unconditional support, someone you can completely be yourself with. Check out the article to learn more.
- “The measure of [friendship] is trust. Trust is engendered by the things you share, since that makes their actions predictable. The more shared experiences you have, the more predictable they become…. The more settings in which you see a friend, the more you can trust that person. The person you only see in one setting can’t be relied upon in other settings… Emotional connection is what switches someone from an acquaintance to a friend.” – Ben Casnocha on the Many Sides of Friendship
- Trust is a true measure of friendships. Trust builds over time.